Are you practicing good self-care?
* Do you care for yourself physically through healthy eating and drinking, sleeping, exercise and relaxation?
* If you are married or in a committed relationship, do you invest in your relationship to keep it fulfilling and enjoyable?
* Do you enjoy friendships outside your congregation?
* Do you have peers with whom you meet regularly for encouragement and accountability?
Are you at risk of offending?
* Do you offer counseling beyond the scope of your training or responsibility?
* Do you disregard protocols of accountability, such as a limit on the number of counseling sessions?
* Do you look forward to seeing certain congregants, or find yourself fantasizing about them?
* Do you just have a sense that “something isn’t right” in your relationship with a certain congregant?
* Are you considering dating a congregant?
Are you hiring new clergy or staff, and need to screen out potential offenders?
You can get help. Resources include:
FaithTrust Institute: information, training, and consultation for clergy and church leaders.
The Hope of Survivors. Resources for clergy under “Are You a Pastor?”
Clergy Recovery Network: resources and support for clergy and other religious professionals before, during, and after leadership crises.
Faithful and True, a ministry to men and women struggling with sexual addiction or sexual infidelity. Founded by a former pastor/offender and his wife.